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Wednesday, March 26, 2014

Opportunities

Opportunities are all around you, but how do you know when an opportunity is the right one?  As for me, I’m in a little bit of a bind with one now.  I have two days to decide whether or not to apply myself as a production staff member of a reality television series, Starting Strong.  While relocation and moving around isn’t a major issue, it will be in the months to follow.  So, before I decide to move to Denver, I need to make a list of pros vs. cons.  (I know, such an elementary thing to do, but it works well into adult hood!)


Pros
-      It’s in Denver, close to home.
-      I get to work on a production team.
-      It’s experience and related to the field I want to get into (television).
-      It’s on its second season, which is an indicator of good ratings.
-      Lots of traveling required.
-      I more than qualify for the position. 
 
Cons
-      No one wants to hire a pregnant woman.
-      Traveling will become difficult in the third trimester.
-      Pay scale, unknown.
-      Show and production team, unheard of.
-      Entry-level position means not utilizing my degree, at least in this case.
-      No chance of advancement.
-      Being a “secretary” type of assistant, I didn’t spend four years of school to become someone’s secretary and not be able to move up in the company.
-      What about my family?

Decision:  Pass; there will be other opportunities.

When the right opportunity arises, I won’t have any doubts that it will be the right one.  In this case, I not only doubt the position, I doubt myself as well.  There’s no guarantee on how long I’d be working for this company, and I need to take care of myself before I commit to something. 

Do you doubt you could do the position?  
No.  I just don’t want to put myself in a position to where – if I had to leave because of complications, or maternity reasons – I wouldn’t be able to finish what I started.  Whatever decision I make, I have to put my family before my career.  Even though I know my five-year-old daughter could handle a life altering decision, in a few months, I’ll have a newborn to depend on me.  I just can’t think about changing our whole lives at this point in time.


For now, I will continue to write.  Thanks for reading!


Wednesday, March 19, 2014

Q & A

Lately I’ve been getting a lot of questions, and although I wouldn’t necessarily call it “fan mail,” I’m here to answer some of those questions.

Why did you go back to school?
As tough of a question as that is, I suppose you could say that I went back to school for the same reason any of you would even consider going: to make more money.  I had spent countless years being passed up for promotions at work because of my “lack of education.”  Looking back, I only now realize that it was just an excuse to hire someone else.  I had all the experience, qualifications, and knowledge to do the job better than the next person, yet no one would give me the time of day.  

Did you not present yourself well?
Oh, but I did.  I NEVER went to a meeting or interview unprepared, and I always dressed appropriately.  My resumes never had typos, I had several letters of recommendation, my cover letters were catered to the positions I applied for, AND I even had a portfolio.  I was a true professional businesswoman; I had the best training.  Getting a job interview was not the problem, getting the job was.

Then why wouldn’t anyone hire/promote you?
I asked myself that question a thousand times.  That’s something I couldn’t answer back then, but I think I can now.  I’ve always aspired to do great things, and my goals have always been set high.  I’ve never had a problem starting out at entry-level positions, heck that’s practically all I’ve ever worked as, but getting married as young as I did has its consequences: debt.

I think that potential employers saw me as a high-risk employee because I was young, married, and had no college education.  If you look back even ten years ago, every company in the world wanted educated employees.  Now, employers want EXPERIENCE and EDUCATION.

Is THAT why you went back to school?
Yes, now keep reading.  After five years of constant rejection – and I mean constant! – I finally had enough.  I couldn’t afford to not get a promotion because of my age and “lack” of education; I now had a daughter to feed.  I swore that I would NEVER again let anyone pass me up for a promotion because of my lack of education or experience.  So I set out on a course to be the BEST of the best in my class. 

I did so well at Ashford University that I was awarded with some of the highest possible honors within my first two years.  I was in the top 3% of both campus and online students in the world.  No, I’m not kidding.  I got the opportunity to attend two ceremonies at the school regarding my awards, which were publicized. 

Wait, you said Ashford University, don’t you attend Full Sail University now?
Correct.  I actually started at Ashford University to get my duel BA in Education and Psychology. 

Why the sudden change?
Half way through my course, I took one class that changed everything: English 225.  Ironically, my English class was an introduction to film.  I absolutely LOVED that class!  Everything about it just felt right.  By the end, my instructor told me that I was going to school for the wrong thing.  He told me that no one, in his many years of teaching, had ever received 100 percent across the board, until me.  His direction and inspiration left me wanting more of the film world, and so I went in search of a new place to call home.

What are you going to do after you graduate?
I had planned on moving to California in search of work, however, now that I’m expecting a little one, I can’t do that right now.  My plans are going to have to wait, but in the mean time, I think I’ll do some freelance work.  Write my books, edit other people’s work, write for the newspaper, make short-films, and anything else I’ve been putting off for four years.

And the last question I’ll answer for today…

How young were you when you got married?
Uh… um… I was pretty young, but at least I had graduated high school!  Okay, fine.  Long story short, I met my husband two months after I graduated high school, I was 17.  Five months after I turned 18, we got married.  So we technically dated for six months before we got married.  He was 21 and I was 18. 

For all you skeptics out there, yes, it IS possible to find your soul mate/true love at any age.  I was fortunate enough to find mine.  We’ve been together for just about ten years, and we’ve been married for over nine.  We have a beautiful five-year-old daughter, and we’re expecting our second one to be born by October of this year.


Got any more questions for me?  Ask them on Facebook or Twitter.

Thanks for reading!


Thursday, March 13, 2014

DOUBTS

Everyone has doubts, and I'm sure they're perfectly normal, but as much as I don’t want them-- they’re here.  As I approach graduation, I’m beginning to wonder if I made the right decision; if all of this debt was really worth it; if my education really taught me what I needed; if all my sacrifices were worth it, and whatnot.  You get the point.

Being a writer isn’t exactly the easiest job in the world.  When people ask you what you do for a living and you respond with, “Writing,” they look at you like you just made the biggest mistake of your life.  But what’s more, once you tell them that you went to school for writing, you can hear them snicker behind your back.  Oh, but tell them you’re an upcoming screenwriter, and EVERYBODY wants to be your friend. 

Not that I’m saying any of you have done that, but it has happened to me before.  I once worked with this one lady who – once she found out I was writing scripts – thought I was her ticket out of here.  She tried to act like I was her best friend in the WHOLE world. Had she ever read any of my work?  No.  Was she interested in any of my stories?  No.  Then why would I give her a second’s thought?  You’re right, I wouldn’t!  This next part is going to make you laugh, though probably not as much as it made me laugh. 

So, Sheryl (not her real name) wanted me to cast her as the main star in one of my short films.  The description of the character she wanted to portray?  A twenty-three year old woman, sandy brown hair, golden tan, cute button nose, and a desirable figure.  Sheryl’s description: forty-three years old, unkempt hair, skin of a smoker, big nose, sagging body parts, AND she had a boisterous personality.  Okay, there are many things I can over look, but a boisterous personality is NOT one of them.  That, and the fact that she wanted me to cast her for a role she could not play.  Not to judge, but that’s not how it works in Hollywood.  

Okay, now to judge: Sheryl wanted to play the roll of someone who was 20 years younger than her!  HAHAHAHA!  I know it sounds mean for me to laugh, but this woman pestered me day after day, after day!  I got to the point where I’d see her coming and I’d have to hide.  It’s not like our conversations were quick either, she ranted nonstop until a supervisor caught her.

Now, back to the point of this post: Doubt. 

Did I have to go to school for writing?  No.  Did I need to go to school for it?  No, probably not.  I could have learned how to do it all on my own, and still figured out how to be successful.  Why did I go back to school?  That’s a very good question, and it’s one that will have to wait until my next post.


Since I’ve already taken the first step towards the cliff, I may as well finish and take the dive.  I know it’ll feel like skydiving all over again.  Will my parachute open, or will I plunge straight into the ground and meet my end?  I don’t like to talk finances, but with over 100K in student loans, I don’t have a choice but to make a name for myself.  So, Doubt, you’re going to have to take a hike, because there’s no room for you in this vehicle!

Tuesday, March 11, 2014

10 Top Reasons Why You Should Like My (Facebook) Page

Hey, everyone!

Before I get to the point, I just wanted to thank all of you who have been following my posts.  As promised, I will post more often.  I even set a reminder on my calendar to post on here, just in case I forget.  So without further ado…

10 Top Reasons Why You Should Like My (Facebook) Page

1.     It’s MY page. 
2.     You’re my friends/family/colleagues/acquaintances, are you not?
3.     You support me when you like my page.
4.     You can help to promote me as a writer.
5.     I’m not your competition; I’m your ally.
6.     You get first announcements of casting calls.
7.     You can submit your music to me if you want me to use it in a production.
8.     You get the latest news in my career development.
9.     I will succeed in living out my dreams, and you can play a part in that.
10.  I never forget those that support me, so thank you all in advance for liking my page!


In case you missed it, my Facebook page is: www.facebook.com/SolaceofaWriter.